Find a comfortable spot and practice the following visualization. Breath in and out in equal times. Exhale from your mouth and inhale from your nose. Every time you exhale imagine you let go of the past, like a load leaving your body, freeing up space. Every time you inhale imagine you breath in the future. Opening up yourself to the new, the exploring, the challenge of the unknown. Repeat the process for a couple of minutes or until you feel ok with it.
For those clung to the past this can help them appreciate the now and look forward to the future. For those fearful of leaping ahead it can increase courage and confidence.
Repeat the visualization when you feel yourself backtracking or simply unable to move ahead.
The mechanics of this exercise are based on the fact that regarding our personal development there is no future and no past. There is only now. At any moment we are able to turn things around, leap forward and escape our mental prison however strong the constrains are.
Try it out a few times and see the results for yourself.
My parenthood experience is limited to 10y. Combine this with my extensive childhood experience which spans to the present day since my parents are still in this world, i can report one thing with confidence: Whenever you feel a distance growing between you and your kids, it is your responsibility as a parent to reach out to them. The longer you wait the longer the distance will grow. Some times parent feel like keeping their ground as a method for kids to understand where they’ve gone wrong.
This approach is not fruitful, distant behavior from parents’ side will not pass any messages to the kids; it will push them away into an introvert defense. Even if th
ere was a point to pass through in the first place it will end up vanishing all together. As time passes in distance, the only point a child will receive is that of indifference.
It might feel beyond your power, or a spoiling move but when you begin to doubt whether you should continue in distance or reach out for one more time, then you need to swallow your pride and reach out. Even If nothing happens and the gap does not bridge you will at least feel some closure knowing you have gone all the way, selflessly.