Trying VS Making

This might sound as a cliche but i feel many people confuse trying with making. I also feel the reason behind trying instead of making is more often than not… pure laziness.

A option-packed, easy-living world with instant fulfilment. This is the cage of our own making. We want options to try out, we want it as easy as it gets and we want results delivered immediately. The exact opposite features of any personal development endeavour.

From Siri to that new wifi coffee machine, the promise remains; fast, effortless, instant. Fast forward 40y from now to 2060, heck… even eating will be too much effort! A bio-energy feed will give us what we need while sleeping.

Of course, the point is not going back to fetching water from the well, it’s about acknowledging that some things STILL (and always WILL) need effort. And i don’t mean moving to a bigger house or getting the latest iphone; to quote Al Pacino “money is the easy thing”. The hard is to develop yourself in becoming more aware of self and others, to improving your situation management, showing patience, flexibility, forgiveness, compassion.

This is how the instant and effortless tryout lifestyle set us back:

• Patience? too much time; snapping is easier.

• Awareness? too tiring, oblivion is easier.

• Flexibility? ….impossible, too complicated, rather be rigid.

• Compassion? …naa, too much thinking and emoting.

 

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Point is there are many smart machines to tryout but only so few virtues in life. Trying them out the fast and easy way doesn’t work, you have to put some back to them for change to happen. And unlike the smart coffee maker, there is no “auto on” function, YOU have to light ’em up -every time!

Reaching Out – parent VS child

My parenthood experience is limited to 10y. Combine this with my extensive childhood experience which spans to the present day since my parents are still in this world, i can report one thing with confidence: Whenever you feel a distance growing between you and your kids, it is your responsibility as a parent to reach out to them. The longer you wait the longer the distance will grow. Some times parent feel like keeping their ground as a method for kids to understand where they’ve gone wrong.

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This approach is not fruitful, distant behavior from parents’ side will not pass any messages to the kids; it will push them away into an introvert defense. Even if th

ere was a point to pass through in the first place it will end up vanishing all together. As time passes in distance, the only point a child will receive is that of indifference.

It might feel beyond your power, or a spoiling move but when you begin to doubt whether you should continue in distance or reach out for one more time, then you need to swallow your pride and reach out. Even If nothing happens and the gap does not bridge you will at least feel some closure knowing you have gone all the way, selflessly.