THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS DEPRESSION. Sadness simply prevails upon your emotional receptors

Happiness kicks in to a degree that becomes identified by our emotional receptors as ‘pleasure’ during specific events or actions. Problem is these kicks are short lived and disappear with only a quick echo.

You get a present, you FEEL happy; your child does well in school, you have a nice meal; your happiness spikes at your receptors again. When the event passes or the action stops, you feel…neutral, as if your feeling receptors have stopped functioning. In reality, you are still happy but your happiness is dormant and doesn’t stimulate your receptors past the threshold of giving you noticeable feedback.

Sadness on the other hand has its own kicks, which last longer and leave a more precipitating echo. After the saddening action or event is gone, your emotional receptors are still active, feeling that echo just like you feel the after taste of a strong liqueur.

So, happiness leaves you neutral after the kick while sadness keeps you in the FEELING zone longer. If the drug itself is our craving to FEEL regardless the feeling type, then sadness has clearly an advantage.

Because of that longer lasting high, sadness has conditioned your emotional receptors to drift towards unhappiness when idle. That might contradict the notion that no one wants to be unhappy, yet your mind takes you there without asking permition. Remember, the drug is not happiness or sadness, is our emotional receptors to be hard at work, to FEEL something …anything. Sadness gives feedback that lasts longer so the mind prefers that to keep the receptors busy.

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Soooo, freedom! It’s not your fault you are clung to sadness nor you find shelter and comfort when your heart is in pain. It’s just your mind/self/body/ craving to FEEL.

If you are tired of sadness and you want to change sides, you need to REALIZE this concept.

You are not pulled towards sadness because you belong there or you have a predisposition or you are dark and gloomy; or because life has been unfair to you. Its because your emotional receptors when idle, choose sadness as the most satisfying way to fire up.

Let me know when you own that concept and i will give you the tools to make happiness spikes last longer with a far batter after taste than the toxic one sadness leaves 😉

Forcing the timing, 5+1 pitfalls

Forcing an action or an outcome before its time has more negative traits in the process than the gain of a successful outcome.

• If this happens once every now and then is ok. Everybody has fallen in the trap of shaking the tree before the fruit is ready. You might finally get the fruit to fall but you will be too exhausted to enjoy or you might have sacrificed a tree branch in the process.

• If this is your pattern of doing things then is not ok. You need to realize it and alter it.

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Here is what the process of forcing outcomes in the wrong timing creates

1 • It is a fun-kill. We make so much effort we forget to pay attention to anything else

2 • It increases the risk of failure. Fruit doesn’t fall, am keep trying in frustration

3 • It creates an imbalance on the effort vs time vs outcome ratio

4 • The above reduces the value of the goal. As we try and try fruitless, we begin to question if that goal really deserves all the effort. Even if we do reach the goal while the effort has been in the discomfort zone, the overall experience won’t be gratifying.

5 • All the above create a feeling of inadequacy as we constantly find ourselves in the overdoing zone in order to achieve things that don’t even fulfill us as much as we thought they would.

So what is the right approach? (if there is such thing in life…)

The simplest and easiest one (we repeatedly tend to overlook): shake the branch till you see that the fruit does not want to come down. Then move on to another branch till you find a fruit that is ready. Don’t fall in the pit of creating attachment to a beautifully shaped fruit that after shaking the crap out of it still hangs in pride. This can easily make you loose yourself and all perspective resulting even in cutting down the whole tree for that one goal. Make no mistake, you might think that specific fruit is all you will ever want from the whole tree, but this is an illusion. Anything you have sacrificed everything for, is guaranteed not to fulfill you.