My parenthood experience is limited to 10y. Combine this with my extensive childhood experience which spans to the present day since my parents are still in this world, i can report one thing with confidence: Whenever you feel a distance growing between you and your kids, it is your responsibility as a parent to reach out to them. The longer you wait the longer the distance will grow. Some times parent feel like keeping their ground as a method for kids to understand where they’ve gone wrong.
This approach is not fruitful, distant behavior from parents’ side will not pass any messages to the kids; it will push them away into an introvert defense. Even if th
ere was a point to pass through in the first place it will end up vanishing all together. As time passes in distance, the only point a child will receive is that of indifference.
It might feel beyond your power, or a spoiling move but when you begin to doubt whether you should continue in distance or reach out for one more time, then you need to swallow your pride and reach out. Even If nothing happens and the gap does not bridge you will at least feel some closure knowing you have gone all the way, selflessly.