Become able to manage your sensitivity instead of pushing it down or letting it run wild and gain wisdom in almost every situation. An untamed sensitivity is the route to feeling inadequate, rejected and depressed as oversensitivity hones the threat of leading you into a neurotic pattern as a means of defense from a self attributed hostile world.
Being able to feel what others feel has the inherent risk of letting too much inside resulting into loosing your inner self.
This is what the easterners call opening and closing the heart chakra at will and is all as difficult as it sounds.
1 • Remember your personal status. Easy to get lost in someone else’s world, specially if this is a significant other; friend, child, spouse, sibling. Remind yourself that you are a separate entity with a life of your own.
2 • Focus on your goals. Keeping your thing(s) at aim helps you back on your path. Remember your goals when you find yourself astray
3 • Observe others behavior and point the differences out to yourself. We associate so much with the people close in our life that to some extend we assume we do things the same. We don’t; focus on these differences when you find yourself consumed by the other person’s existence/behavior.
4 • Practice all the above as a return-to-base methods and not as a standard procedure. If you maintain focus to yourself and pay too much attention to differences you wont even reach the necessary sensitivity to feel the other person, let alone needing to escape the threat of becoming oversensitive.
5 • Finally, drop the reflex interaction. Most of the time we overcompensate when interacting with those close. We don’t really listen to them as our “pre-cooked” response has become our only one. This puts us in a viscous cycle of conditioned behavior that seriously hinders communication on both sides.
This is a demanding practice and if your EQ is rusty or if you have been towards the live-and-let-die side of life you need to forget all these and simply open up; the above steps are when you have opened up so much that you cannot find yourself any more.