Happiness kicks in to a degree that becomes identified by our emotional receptors as ‘pleasure‘ during specific events or actions. Problem is these kicks are short lived and disappear with only a quick echo.
You get a present, you FEEL happy; your child does well in school, you have a nice meal; your happiness spikes at your receptors again. When the event passes or the action stops, you feel…neutral, as if your feeling receptors have stopped functioning. In reality, you are still happy but your happiness is dormant and doesn’t stimulate your receptors past the threshold of giving you noticeable feedback. Thus, neutral. For some people, that’s simply not enough.
Sadness on the other hand has its own kicks, which last longer and leave a more precipitating echo. After a saddening action or event is gone, your emotional receptors are still active. You feel the echo just like you feel the after taste of a strong liqueur.
So, happiness leaves you neutral after the kick while sadness keeps you in the feeling-zone for longer. If the drug itself is our craving to FEEL regardless the type, then sadness has clearly an advantage.
Because of that longer lasting high, sadness has conditioned your emotional receptors to drift towards unhappiness when idle. That might contradict the notion that no one wants to be unhappy, yet your mind takes you there without asking permition. Remember, the drug is not happiness or sadness, is your emotional receptors to be hard at work, to FEEL something …anything. Sadness gives feedback that lasts longer so the mind prefers that to keep the receptors busy.
So, finally, freedom! It’s not your fault you are clung to sadness nor you find shelter and comfort when your heart is in pain. It’s just your mind/self/body/ craves to FEEL.
If you are tired of sadness and you want to change sides, you need to realize this concept. You are not pulled towards sadness because you belong there or you have a predisposition or you are dark and gloomy; or because life has been unfair to you. Its because your emotional receptors when idle, choose sadness as the most satisfying way to fire up.
Own it and switch it up. You will be free instantly.